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The depth of a coaching conversation: babies and bathwater

The depth of a coaching conversation: babies and bathwater

Solution Focused (SF) Practice stays “on the surface” and shies away from explanations and instead concentrates on clients’ descriptions of positive change in their past, present and future. The approach is firmly rooted in post-structural, postmodern, social...

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How many coaches does it take to change a lightbulb?

How many coaches does it take to change a lightbulb?

Only one, but the lightbulb has to want it! Ok, this is an old joke, but how soon is it forgotten when we enter the field of organizational development and change management. When an organization wants to create a "culture change", for example "create a coaching...

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Is a coach a cheerleader?

Is a coach a cheerleader?

According to the updated core competency model of the International Coaching Federation, a coach "celebrates the client's progress and successes", "notices what is working to enhance client progress" and "acknowledges and respects the client’s unique talents, insights...

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4 “I”s for team cohesion – number 4 will surprise you!

4 “I”s for team cohesion – number 4 will surprise you!

Sorry... just testing whether headlines like this actually work 🙂 On a more serious note: We did discuss how to handle situations in teams where there are "cliques" or "ingroups" and "outgroups" in our training on team coaching the other day (more on that training...

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6 tips when clients get on your nerves

6 tips when clients get on your nerves

I know, I know, I know -- your clients never get on your nerves. They shouldn't, right? I mean, as coaches, we are these saintly people who don't have personal preferences, we have gazillion tons of patience, look at everyone with an appreciative eye, always........

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The Saint of Small Stuff…. a holy productivity hack

The Saint of Small Stuff…. a holy productivity hack

Do you have too much to do? Do you sometimes not know where to start? Are you at times losing the overview and all the small, medium and big stuff is threatening to bury you like an avalanche? If no, can you please write to me so that I can share your secret with the...

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NEVER ask a WHY-question — why should you?

NEVER ask a WHY-question — why should you?

In many coaching schools or leadership courses you learn NEVER to ask why questions. They lead to: Assigning blame Asking for justification Deepening the discussion of the problem Getting a team stuck Here is an example: A: “I don’t like presenting, I am always super...

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4 lifesavers for stuck coaches

4 lifesavers for stuck coaches

That hated moment -- your client has finished talking. Maybe even while the client was talking, you were thinking: "Uh-oh -- where is this going... what am I going to ask next?" and then some more of that thinking and then slowly and surely thinking yourself into a...

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Coaching and leading non-native English speakers

Coaching and leading non-native English speakers

Most of us live in a bi-lingual world where we either speak more than one language or are communicating with people whose native language is not our own, and mostly, not English. Even if both speakers are English native speakers -- there are variants of English to...

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A little fish with your bicycle? Metaphor menus in coaching

A little fish with your bicycle? Metaphor menus in coaching

I love metaphors -- I love playing with language and being playful is something I really enjoy. Recently I came across a BBC documentary podcast on metaphors and language used by people experiencing cancer to describe their experience. As you may notice, the above...

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Before you self-diagnose with depression…

Before you self-diagnose with depression…

… have a look around and see if you are not actually surrounded by a****les. When we are feeling down, angry, sad, irritated, anxious, etc. or when someone else is feeling in a way that is undesirable to them, the most common reaction in our culture is to start to...

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What a coach can learn from a cycle trip…

What a coach can learn from a cycle trip…

I love cycling and in the summer of 2020 my husband and I cycled from Frankfurt to Spain. Here is what we learned (which is applicable to coaching as well): No plan survives first contact with reality Yeah. I like planning trips. It's an activity that makes me happy....

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