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The Saint of Small Stuff…. a holy productivity hack

The Saint of Small Stuff…. a holy productivity hack

Do you have too much to do? Do you sometimes not know where to start? Are you at times losing the overview and all the small, medium and big stuff is threatening to bury you like an avalanche? If no, can you please write to me so that I can share your secret with the...

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NEVER ask a WHY-question — why should you?

NEVER ask a WHY-question — why should you?

In many coaching schools or leadership courses you learn NEVER to ask why questions. They lead to: Assigning blame Asking for justification Deepening the discussion of the problem Getting a team stuck Here is an example: A: “I don’t like presenting, I am always super...

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4 lifesavers for stuck coaches

4 lifesavers for stuck coaches

That hated moment -- your client has finished talking. Maybe even while the client was talking, you were thinking: "Uh-oh -- where is this going... what am I going to ask next?" and then some more of that thinking and then slowly and surely thinking yourself into a...

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Coaching and leading non-native English speakers

Coaching and leading non-native English speakers

Most of us live in a bi-lingual world where we either speak more than one language or are communicating with people whose native language is not our own, and mostly, not English. Even if both speakers are English native speakers -- there are variants of English to...

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A little fish with your bicycle? Metaphor menus in coaching

A little fish with your bicycle? Metaphor menus in coaching

I love metaphors -- I love playing with language and being playful is something I really enjoy. Recently I came across a BBC documentary podcast on metaphors and language used by people experiencing cancer to describe their experience. As you may notice, the above...

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Before you self-diagnose with depression…

Before you self-diagnose with depression…

… have a look around and see if you are not actually surrounded by a****les. When we are feeling down, angry, sad, irritated, anxious, etc. or when someone else is feeling in a way that is undesirable to them, the most common reaction in our culture is to start to...

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What a coach can learn from a cycle trip…

What a coach can learn from a cycle trip…

I love cycling and in the summer of 2020 my husband and I cycled from Frankfurt to Spain. Here is what we learned (which is applicable to coaching as well): No plan survives first contact with reality Yeah. I like planning trips. It's an activity that makes me happy....

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Little boxes without topses… personality profiles

Little boxes without topses… personality profiles

If you catch me on a bad day and ask me about personality profiles, you will trigger a rant. Personally, I don’t believe that you can sort humanity into 16 groups of personalities and end up with something useful. The instruments range from the downright shady to the...

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Your team member asks you a question – ask don’t tell!

Your team member asks you a question – ask don’t tell!

“Uhm….,” he starts, and you think: “uh-oh …. this will take a while…”. Jack, a member of your team, started working with you six months ago. He still feels a little bit insecure, and it seems he wants to do everything just perfectly. Part of you wants to help him,...

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You are wrong! Always!

You are wrong! Always!

“Correct me if I am wrong…” “Am I right?” “Please push back if I am wrong!” “Does that sound about right?” These are all things we say before or after we summarize what another person has said. But why do we do that? Why repeat something that was said right before?...

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Are you stuck in the tyranny of “now”?

Are you stuck in the tyranny of “now”?

“I lack self-confidence!”, “I am an introvert, “She is a low performer” -- All these statements support the “tyranny of now” and impede the liberating power of “yet”. As a coach and mentor coach I often hear self-descriptions or descriptions of others in such not very...

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