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Little boxes without topses… personality profiles

Little boxes without topses… personality profiles

If you catch me on a bad day and ask me about personality profiles, you will trigger a rant. Personally, I don’t believe that you can sort humanity into 16 groups of personalities and end up with something useful. The instruments range from the downright shady to the...

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Your team member asks you a question – ask don’t tell!

Your team member asks you a question – ask don’t tell!

“Uhm….,” he starts, and you think: “uh-oh …. this will take a while…”. Jack, a member of your team, started working with you six months ago. He still feels a little bit insecure, and it seems he wants to do everything just perfectly. Part of you wants to help him,...

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You are wrong! Always!

You are wrong! Always!

“Correct me if I am wrong…” “Am I right?” “Please push back if I am wrong!” “Does that sound about right?” These are all things we say before or after we summarize what another person has said. But why do we do that? Why repeat something that was said right before?...

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Are you stuck in the tyranny of “now”?

Are you stuck in the tyranny of “now”?

“I lack self-confidence!”, “I am an introvert, “She is a low performer” -- All these statements support the “tyranny of now” and impede the liberating power of “yet”. As a coach and mentor coach I often hear self-descriptions or descriptions of others in such not very...

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Taming the monkeys – How to say “No” in 5 simple steps

Taming the monkeys – How to say “No” in 5 simple steps

If you are a little bit like me, you have a lot to do and probably not always enough capacity to get everything done that you want to get done. No matter whether you are a manager, a team leader, the person who stays at home to take care of the family, a project...

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CHALLENGING the CLIENT???

CHALLENGING the CLIENT???

Can you challenge your client? Should you challenge your client? What if you do challenge your client and they stop liking you? What if you don’t challenge your client and they stay stuck in an action, perception, thought or feeling that doesn’t serve them? If you’re...

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What does the coach need to know?

What does the coach need to know?

So does the coach need to know anything? Do you need to understand anything as a coach? Or does mainly the client need to know and develop understanding and forward movement?​​​ In one of the last emails I talked about keeping our questions on the first floor of the...

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